We all want to find a peaceful journey on our path in life. A peaceful journey includes an abundance of unconditional love and joy. It is easy to practice peacefulness when we are on vacation or in a nature environment. The challenges occur when we are surrounded by outside circumstances that seem unjust, unloving and unfair. This is when our peaceful journey tends to be shaken and chaos occurs both internally and externally. In order to have a peaceful journey on your path in life, it is important to learn how to hold divine love for self and the divine and acceptance, compassion and goodness for all living things especially during the chaos.
So lets examine the difference between a “Soap Opera” lifestyle and a “Peaceful Path” on your journey in life. This will give you the opportunity to discover your “soap opera” lifestyle and learn ways to change it to a more “peaceful path.”
I define a Soap Opera Lifestyle as an emotional and mental attachment to unjust, unfair, and unhappy situations creating drama and judgment. Soap opera lifestyle occurs during the observation stage, where you analyze a part in self, a situation or others where there is a lack of peace. You perceive this occurrence that has lack of peace, with judgment and react with hate and anger. Your focus is on changing an external part of your life. There is a tendency to want to fix, change and improve the unjust, unfair, unhappy part in self, others and situations.
This external focus will lead to a victimization and feeling of helplessness. You will become discouraged, frustrated, confused, and angry possibly becoming mistrustful and jealous of others’ success; you could have passive/aggressive behavior and feel you have to protect and defend yourself and/or even others. This feeling of helplessness will push you into a deprivation focus where you put your attention on what you don’t have and want. Our mind is like a computer, what we focus on expands and creates that reality.
We can summarize the soap opera behavior as expecting results, which leads to trying to control the outcome and over doing. Trying to control the outcome, over doing and expecting certain results leads to conditions of want with a time limit of when and how you want it. The results are disappointments, victimization and feeling stuck when the conditions are not met. Many common reasons for the soap opera behavior stem from a “need” for approval, acceptance or love.
I define the Peaceful Journey as an internal serendipity with circumstances that seem unloving, unjust, and unfair. You know there is a positive reason for this circumstance, which could lead to growth, wisdom and opportunities. Therefore, you don’t over analyze and you practice acceptance, enjoyment, appreciation, value, trust and faith with the unknown. You understand that if it’s important to know the reason in time you will know.
The peaceful journey begins when you practice spiritual hearing. Spiritual hearing is where you have an awareness of your divine heart. You hold a divine love for self and the divine, knowing the more you come from your divine heart, the more peace, joy and abundance you will manifest. You accept and have compassion for others, especially when there is chaos, unjust, unfair and unloving situations.
The steps for a peaceful journey is pretty simple, yet can be challenging when obstacles occur. The application for a peaceful journey begins when you hold self-love and acceptance. You value yourself and your work so others will too and you do loving things for yourself to increase self-love. You hold love for the divine who will keep you in the light of awareness, peace, joy and abundance. There is acceptance and compassion for other living things from your divine heart.
Some helpful hints on staying on a peaceful journey in your path to life are as follows:
- Practice meditations to quiet the mind and connect the heart on a deeper level
- Practice being at peace with the unknown
- Relax the fears and surrender to having to know the answers now
- Come from compassion and desire for understanding, remaining free of all attachments. Attachments where you emotionally personalize, physically have addictive behaviors, and mentally over analyze.
- Have gratitude for the desires for which you choose to experience
- Visualize the desires as if they already exist now
- Have faith and patience for the desire to manifest, continuing to be grateful
- If you want to change an external part of your life, change the internal belief that holds those patterns in place.
- If you become discouraged, quiet the mind and connect with what brings you pleasure, allowing the heart to expand and feel energized
- Observe all the crosses your path- both in your reading and listening- and sense from the heart. Ask yourself if it leads you toward love, compassion, and selfunderstanding or take away from self-love and self-worth.
- Look and listen to your inner vocabulary that you use on yourself and others making sure there is no victimization, negativity or judgment.
It is only in the state of the highest self that you can glimpse joy and release pain and fears. May peace, joy, abundance and love be with you.